That sounds very challenging. I’m sorry to hear about it. I, too, recently ended a relationship with a narcissist, though it was much briefer. Upon reflection of our time together, I realized that my altruism (unconditional love) for him was actually aggravating the problem. By trying to help him (instead of walking away), I activated his worst traits. That’s what got me thinking about what the opposite of narcissism is and how I could alter my own behaviour to prevent it.